The loss of my English teacher’s mother

    On 18th May, my teacher announced a bad news about her mother. She had a burst appendix, possibly life-threatening and required immediate surgery. However, the 88-year old who was fighting the serious infection and being sedated (anesthesia) after the surgery. She had the trouble of breathing and on a ventilator in intensive care unit. She had extreme pain and wished not to wake up again, she said goodbye to everyone come to visit her in hospital.

    After few days, my teacher still concerned her bad situation, her kidneys were weak and had blood clots in her legs. She barely opened her eyes and lifting her arms when responded to somebody asking her. He acknowledged his feelings and challenging his negative thoughts when he had a regular meeting with us. I could sense he was trying to bottle up his feelings by talking a lot funny things with us.

    On 31st May, he declared her death in peace without any stopping machine. He felt blessed that he would suffer to make decision to determine her destiny. Fortunately, God listened to him and his family as well. We knew that that he accepted the reality and believed he could get on with the next phase in his life.

    Grief is a natural response to loss, and that includes the loss of your best love. It is very great to expand a social network outside of work, meeting new people by taking a class, it could be crucial in helping you cope with the stress or anxiety.